Boundaries

Have you heard the saying “good fences make good neighbors”?


Fences are the boundary lines that divide personal property. The same is true with personal boundaries, they are the limits you place on where you end and someone else begins.  When boundaries are healthy, the results include healthy self-esteem and genuine connections. When boundaries are too rigid or lacking, results include disconnection, resentment, exhaustion and low self-esteem.  


The most common boundaries are:


  • Physical:  Otherwise known as personal space. This might include your need to lock the door when in the shower.
  • Mental:  Respecting the opinions of others and also having your opinions respected.
  • Emotional:  Protects you from taking responsibility for someone else’s feelings or taking someone else’s comments personally.
  • Sexual: Protecting your level of comfort of touch and with whom.
  • Spiritual: Protects your right to spiritual beliefs and accepts that others have their own beliefs separate from yours.
  • Material: Protects things that belong to you, including personal items and lending money.


Recommended Reading:  Boundaries: When to Say Yes - When to Say No - Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend