Trauma, Relationship Patterns, Anxiety & OCD
When You’ve Tried to Heal, But Still Feel Stuck
What if the way through is different than you expected?
Adrie-Anne Gamble, MPCC, CCC
Certified Narcissistic Abuse Clinician
When You Know What’s Happening, But Can’t Change It
Why do I react this way when I don’t want to?
Why can’t I get out of my head?
Why do relationships keep hurting?
Will I ever feel like I’m living, not just surviving?
Maybe you've spent a long time trying to understand what's happening, yet still feel stuck.
The real question is not, “What’s wrong with you?”
It’s, “What happened, when did it begin, and why is it still affecting you?”
You can come as you are. You don't need to prepare anything. We can start where you are and figure it out together. You can bring the parts of yourself that feel heavy, confusing, or painful. You don't have to hide them with me. I will sit with you in those places with compassion and without judgment.
Who I Help
I help adults (18+) who are navigating:
- Anxiety, overthinking, OCD, panic, and intrusive thoughts
- Trauma, emotional neglect, and childhood wounds
- Narcissistic abuse, trauma bonds, and emotionally immature families
- Family scapegoating, estrangement, and grief
- Difficult relationships, boundaries, people pleasing, self-doubt, and learning to trust yourself
Making Sense of What Happened
Many of our thoughts, emotions, reactions, and patterns begin to make more sense when we understand what was happening in our lives when they first developed.
Maybe you needed to cope, protect yourself, find certainty or control to feel safe, or stay connected in an important relationship.
The difficult thoughts and feelings you are living with today might not be signs that something is wrong with you. They might be understandable responses to what you've lived through or what you are facing now. The goal is not to get rid of every uncomfortable response, it's to understand what it may be telling you and what you need now.
There are some things in life that cannot be changed or undone. You cannot go back and change your childhood, erase what happened to you, undo trauma, or take away a loss. Sometimes we also have to grieve broken dreams, changed circumstances, or the future we thought we would have. Some relationships leave lasting wounds, and sometimes the repair, reconciliation, or relationship we hoped for is no longer possible.
Together, we can make sense of what you’ve been through, work through what still hurts, grieve what cannot be recovered, and begin building a life that is not defined by what happened to you.
Healing is still possible, and you don’t have to figure it out alone.
How I Help
The first priority is to make sure you feel heard, understood, and genuinely cared about. I want to understand you as a whole person, not just the problems you’re struggling with.
From there, we look at what you need most right now.
Practical Support for What You Are Facing
Sometimes you need support with what is happening in your life currently.
This might include practical tools and coping strategies, support with day-to-day challenges, preparing for difficult conversations, understanding what healthy responses look like, or creating a practical plan for something you are facing.
Working With Emotional Overwhelm in the Moment
When your nervous system is taking over in the blink of an eye and you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unable to respond the way you want to we can work with these moments together.
If you are having a panic attack, we can work through it together rather than only talking about what you could do next time. If you are shutting down or disconnecting, we can work toward regaining a sense of safety and reconnecting with the present. If your mind is looping and you can't stay focused, we can work directly with those loops. If you are feeling intense emotions, I can enter that space with you and help you move through it.
You don't have to figure out how to handle these moments before you come. I’m not going to stand on the shore and tell you how to row. I’ll get in the boat with you, and we’ll work our way toward shore together.
Beyond Coping: Healing What’s Underneath
The deeper work may involve making sense of what you’ve been through, why you respond the way you do, processing what still hurts, and understanding the patterns that keep you stuck so you can move beyond coping and create meaningful change.
When we understand how these patterns formed, why you feel the way you do, and what is happening underneath, we have a clearer map of what you uniquely need for healing and moving forward.
If this is where you are at, I can help you work through emotions you may not have felt safe to experience, process painful memories, work through relationship wounds, and explore the beliefs and patterns that developed along the way.
We can stay curious about the parts of you that become critical, fearful, people-pleasing, or withdrawn. Together, we can explore what is underneath these responses, what they represent, what they have been working so hard to protect you from, and how these parts developed to help you cope.
By understanding these patterns with compassion rather than judgment, we can begin to see what you uniquely need for support, healing, and moving forward in a way that fits who you are.
The relationship we build together can also become part of this process. If you've spent much of your life feeling misunderstood, dismissed, blamed, or like you had to hide parts of yourself, experiencing a relationship where you are genuinely seen, heard, and accepted can also be healing.
The goal is to help you understand yourself more deeply, heal what continues to hurt, trust yourself more fully, and find practical ways to respond when life is hard.
Building the Life You Want After Healing
Healing is also about building what comes next and creating a life that aligns with who you are. We can begin exploring:
Who am I ?
What do I want?
What matters to me?
What are my boundaries?
What kind of relationships do I want?
What are my interests, strengths, gifts, and talents?
You can begin making choices and decisions based on what you value, what feels hopeful, and what matters to you.
This work does not have to be rushed. You get to choose where we focus, and we can move at a pace that respects what you have been through.
Christian Perspective (optional)
For those who would like faith included in counselling, I offer counselling from an accepting Christian perspective and welcome the opportunity to incorporate faith, prayer, or spiritual reflection into our work together. Your beliefs and preferences are respected, whether you would like faith included in our work or prefer to leave it outside of counselling.
Let’s Connect
Choosing a counsellor is an important decision. I welcome you to book a complimentary 15-minute consultation where we can talk about what you are hoping for, answer any questions you may have, and see if working together feels like the right fit.
You can use the contact form to request:
A) A free consultation, or
B) If you are ready to book a session, a booking link.
** All sessions are offered online, including EMDR therapy. This means you can meet with me from home, while you’re on vacation, at work, or even from your car.
If you are looking for one of the following, another service may be a better fit:
You need crisis or emergency support. I am not a crisis counsellor, and my services are not designed for situations that require immediate or emergency support. If you are experiencing a crisis or there is an immediate concern about your safety or someone else’s safety, I refer to local crisis services that are equipped to respond in the moment.
You are looking primarily for a formal diagnosis. I do not provide formal diagnoses. Instead, we will work together to understand what you are experiencing and what will help you create meaningful change.
You are seeking legal advice, assessment, or documentation related to a legal matter.
I do not provide legal advice, custody assessments, court reports, or professional opinions or documentation for use by lawyers, courts, or other third parties.
I can, however, support you emotionally as you navigate a legal process. This may include helping you prepare for difficult conversations, mediation, negotiations, or court, manage anxiety and emotional overwhelm, and feel more grounded and able to participate in the process in a way that reflects your intentions.
You are looking for couples or family therapy. I work with adults (18+) in individual therapy. At this time, I do not provide couples or family therapy.
Let's Connect!
Adrie-Anne Gamble, MPCC, CCC
Online Therapy Across Canada
Mon | Closed | |
Tue | 08:30 a.m. – 02:00 p.m. | |
Wed | 08:30 a.m. – 02:00 p.m. | |
Thu | 08:30 a.m. – 02:00 p.m. | |
Fri | 08:30 a.m. – 02:00 p.m. | |
Sat | Closed | |
Sun | Closed |
Hours are in SK time.
