Trauma is not just what happened to you, it’s also what your system had to do to survive it.
If you’ve lived through experiences where you weren’t believed, felt unsafe, or were repeatedly blamed or invalidated, it makes sense that your mind and body adapted in ways that helped you cope at the time.
These responses can show up as:
Betrayal trauma – when someone you trusted hurts, deceives, or violates your trust, leaving you confused, questioning yourself, or struggling to feel safe again.
Single event trauma – a specific overwhelming experience, such as an accident, assault, serious injury, or other frightening event.
Complex trauma – ongoing or repeated experiences that affect how you see yourself, relate to others, cope with stress, and feel safe.
Developmental trauma – growing up without consistent emotional or physical safety, support, or care.
Relational trauma – being repeatedly hurt within relationships through manipulation, control, gaslighting, rejection, or chronic invalidation.
Traumatic grief – grief connected to a traumatic loss or experience that feels difficult to process, understand, or move through.
Trauma therapy is not about repeatedly telling the story of what happened. We look at how those experiences are still affecting you now. This might show up in your relationships, your emotions, your thoughts, your body, or the way you respond when something reminds you of the past.
We may look at the situations that leave you feeling overwhelmed, shut down, on edge, ashamed, afraid, or stuck. Together, we can begin to understand what is happening beneath those reactions and why certain situations can feel so powerful.
When it is appropriate, we can also work directly with memories and experiences that have not been fully processed. This may involve EMDR or other trauma focused approaches. You do not have to force yourself through painful material. We pay attention to your responses as we go and adjust the work when needed.
Trauma therapy can also involve learning practical ways to recognize what is happening in your body, manage overwhelming emotions, respond to triggers, set boundaries, and stay connected to yourself when relationships become difficult.
Over time, the aim is not to erase what happened. It is to help you feel less controlled by it. You can begin to understand your reactions, feel more choice in how you respond, and relate to yourself and others in ways that feel more consistent with who you are now.
Therapy is most helpful when there is a sense of honest connection and genuine care for what you’re going through. I offer a free 15-minute consultation so we can get a sense of whether working together feels like the right fit.
Adrie-Anne Gamble
Master Practitioner in Clinical Counselling (CPCA #3793)
Canadian Certified Counsellor (CCPA #10001293)
Online Counselling for Adults in Regina & Across Saskatchewan